I know musicians making friends with other musicians has always been a pretty popular thing that goes on in the unsigned music world. I understand why musicians feel the need to make friends with other musicians in their music scene. They do it so they can get more contacts. Hoping to get gigs with them or even form a band with them. Some musicians do it just for networking in the music scene and try to get known around them so they can be a part of the scene. Some do it to try to get their own music out there. Some do it for the enjoyment of hanging out ’cause they have good music discussions having the same taste in music. Lot of reasons why musicians want to be friends or just “buddies” to other musicians.

In the past, when I was out there gigging, I hung out with some musicians in the scene. I wouldn’t exactly call them “best friends”, just hung out with them in the scene. Didn’t really hang out with them at their homes or anything but what is that word, I’m trying to look for? I think the correct word that I’m looking for is, “acquaintance”, means you know them personally but not exactly your friend.

If making friends or acquaintances is what you want to do in the music scene, you must go for the people who are willing to support you in return. Be friendly with the musicians who have the same taste of music as you do. That is pretty much key to winning support from other musicians, sharing the same musical tastes and styles. Enjoying the same bands and genres. Having lots of common in music.

The last thing you want to do though is try to be friendly with all musicians out there, ’cause not all of them are going to be friendly, believe me. You will make enemies out there too. You can’t please everybody. I’ve had plenty of musicians from the past who I thought was going to be a buddy of mine or just a contact, but I learned that a lot of them can’t be trusted. Just move on from the enemies immediately, brush them off and go for the ones that will be willing to be supportive of you.

Seriously, there will be kind musicians out there that will support you, have your back, and he/she will want the best of you. You will get wonderful musicians that will support you every step of the way. You just need to believe in yourself and support the musicians who support you in return. There’s your own music scene. Sometimes, it’s worth it going through all those musicians who were enemies who tried to bring you down, ’cause you can get supporters that way. There will be musicians who won’t give you drama. Just go for the right musicians, and your music life will be great.

This is one of the reasons why I’m trying to learn music theory more, so I can understand their music theory discussions, lol…

Kev