So you like to be buddies with musicians around the scene as a way to feel part of a musicians community? Is this always a good idea? Will this help you as a musician in your own career and your songwriting? In a way, no it won’t, and let me explain.

There were so many musicians in the past who I thought were pretty supportive of me. I’m not saying they’re my friends, but they were just supportive and they respected you as a musician. As years go along, they all of a sudden have condescending attitudes. They act like a jerk to you all of a sudden, when you’ve been nothing but nice and supportive. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve dealt with this over the years. I’ve tried to be nothing but very “supportive” and friendly to musicians, but I don’t know. There’s something weird about them. This is part of the big reason, why I don’t care to make friends with other musicians in the scene.

I think the reason a lot of them act like this, they were once supportive of you and now they’re not, is that they “think”, they are a better and more successful musician than you are. The more success they get, the bigger their ego gets. They want to look like they’re smarter than you are, and they want to make it look like they have more experience than you. That’s why they act like douchebags to you.

I also know that a lot of these guys enjoy talking shit about other musicians behind their backs. I know this, ’cause in facebook, I’ve had musicians privately tell me that they don’t like this guy and that guy. Why don’t you be a man and say that stuff publicly upfront? Oh, I know why. They know it’s an unprofessional thing for them to do, and they don’t want to make themselves look bad.

Yes, I can be very supportive of musicians, it’s part of what I do, but when these guys want to act like ego-maniacs and start drama with you, no thanks. Get out of my life, move along please. Just because you have success in your career, and made lots of accomplishments, or you have a lot of years of experience as a musician, doesn’t mean, you have to be a bad guy. I can’t stand musicians with this kind of attitude, and they’re all over the place. They are a legend in their own mind. I can sit here and name plenty of musicians with this kind of attitude, but I don’t want to ’cause I made a promise that I will never bash musicians publicly. So I just do it without names.

Not everyone is like this, I know, don’t get me wrong. There are plenty of kind and wonderful musicians out there who will truly support you and have your back. You just got to find ’em. You will know they have your true support when they don’t care what others think about you. I have had some musicians who stayed loyal to me, no matter what happened. It feels good too. Yes, you’re going to have drama and not get along with some musicians, but, that’s the whole deal with being a musician, ya know? It’s the name of the game. You’re going to go through a lot of ups and downs. You go through good days and bad days, like everyone.

If you get negativity and drama in your musical life, best thing to do is, ignore it all, and let it slide right by. I don’t have time for this garbage, I just want to live a positive and happy life. Other musicians have a problem in replying to drama in the music community ’cause they get so hung up in it. I don’t care to get into any of that stuff anymore. I want my music life to be a positive one from this point forward.

Kev