Why I don’t get along with a lot of musicians out there – part III…

Yes, I have had falling-outs and heated feuds with quite a lot of musicians over the years. I don’t get along with a lot of ’em anymore but that’s all good and cool with me, ya know? Who cares. Life goes on. That’s all I can say. Who are these musicians that I’m referring to? I could list a bunch of names publicly if I wanted but it’s not a good idea to do so I won’t. I used to interact with some of them online on a regular basis but I don’t talk with a lot of ’em anymore.

This is why I refuse to make friends with other musicians these days. Why? Because some musicians really are selfish and hateful people. They really can be assholes and they can’t really be trusted. The question you have to ask is that when you make friends with other musicians, do they really like you? You never know if they do or not but who the hell cares if they don’t.

A lot of musicians like to look at local music as making friends with other musicians but in my opinion, music shouldn’t be that way. Music shouldn’t be a popularity contest. The thing that I have noticed over the years musicians are only friends with other musicians who look for approval of their talent and musicianship. If you don’t approve them as a person or their music, they’ll hate you for it. They usually become all defensive and gets their panties in a bunch. The fact of the matter is musicians can be very dramatic and weird people. I’ve experienced all kinds of stuff with them over the years.

With them it’s like, “Oooohh, I like your music and you’re a good musician, lets be friends.”. That’s how it goes around here, I think. Facebook and social networking is proof of that. It’s just an example of musicians having huge egos. They look for musicians who approve them as a person and musician so they can feel good about themselves and it makes them feel “popular”. Musicians using other musicians to promote themselves and their own music.

This is how it’s been over the years. I’ve seen it all. This is why a lot of them don’t like me ’cause I have some truth to say that they aren’t gonna like.

What are some other reasons musicians don’t like me? It’s not only my internet web presence a lot of them don’t like. Maybe they feel that I’m not a good enough musician and songwriter. They don’t like me as a person ’cause I’m different and stuff, ya know? When you’re not a good enough musician, makes them think they have all their right to criticize your music and talent. They think they have the right to bash you as a person ’cause they feel you’re not good enough musically.

These guys live under the delusion of being “professional musicians” and many of them feel I’m not there yet so a lot of them feel I’m not welcomed to be a part of this local music scene for that reason. Musicians have bashed my musical talent for years. That’s pretty much where all the bullying and harassment comes from. Maybe if I was more professionally skilled musically, gig on a regular basis and work hard… maybe all these guys would take me more seriously. That’s how it goes here.

This is part of why I have a hard time getting recognized for my music ’cause a lot of people around here see me as a hobbyist/amateur kind of musician. This is part of what I don’t like about this area. The “professional” vs. “amateur” debate. What they can’t seem to get through their thick heads is that ALL MUSICIANS deserve to be a part of the scene no matter the level of talent.

I’ll confess it that I’m not the best musician and songwriter in the world but I’m doing whatever I can to improve my musicianship. I’ve been working on my singing. Guitar playing. Brushing up my music theory and improvisation skills. I’ve been working myself up to a “professional” level.

Music shouldn’t be about who is welcomed to play and who is not. When musicians criticize you, it’s all a matter of opinion. That’s it. They’re just opinionated. They could also be a little “jealous” that you really are talented and they’re just afraid to admit it.

Like I always say, music should be for you. Don’t listen to other people’s criticism about your playing and musicianship. Fuck each and everyone ’em. Musicians think they have the right to criticize your music but when you do the same to them, it’s wrong.

I have always been accused of being a hateful and negative person but it’s not true. Other musicians can be way more hateful and negative than me. All the bashing against me over the years just further proves that.

Musicians can’t be trusted, man. They can be a bunch of ego-driven lunatics. Like I said before, not all musicians are assholes. Some can be wonderful and down to earth human beings. I got some musicians who supported me over the years so NOT all of them dislike me and I’m honored for that.

The whole point is that music shouldn’t be about pleasing other musicians. It should be about pleasing yourself. That’s what I play music for pretty much is to please myself but I’m always flattered and grateful that other people do like my songs and talent. There are those that DO like me out there and that’s a big part of why I’m doing this internet-only album. It’s for the supporters who continued to stick with me and this is me giving back. The internet-only album is for the new listeners too, of course.

I’m about moving forward in life. If other musicians don’t want to talk to me anymore ’cause they got their panties in a bunch over some childish bullshit online, that’s all fine and good. Life goes on, what’s done is done.

Kev

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