I learned from a few youtube dating videos and I saw a video where it explained that “Women do the choosing” in dating and it’s true sadly. Dating guru’s in youtube want to make it look like that men have the power to get any woman you want but that’s all really bullshit. I’ll repeat that women do the choosing. They choose what guy they want to like and they choose what guy they want to fall in love with. It’s sad but that’s the way it is. I learned from another dating video that you also don’t wanna go out there chasing random women. This certain dating coach in youtube says that you only wanna go for the women who have an interest in you.

When women give you direct eye contact and smile… those are the ones you wanna go for. When she touches you or wants you to give her a hug, those are the ones you wanna go for. When she does those things that means she probably has a love interest in you and probably has sexual attraction to you. Going for the women who give you direct eye contact is probably the best idea.

You don’t wanna go after random chicks in public places ’cause chances are, she doesn’t wanna be bothered and she’ll probably walk away and ignore you.

Like I said before, I don’t think I’ll do long distance dating on the internet and I don’t think I’ll pick up women from bars/clubs either. I pretty much want to try to hook up with women locally like in my hometown of Greenwich. Even though I live in a small town which nothing much to do, there are tons of women all over the place.

I do meet women at local band shows sometimes and I do meet women through friends of certain family members. I gotta find places in town where women go. A coffee shop is a nice idea. There isn’t a Starbucks in Greenwich yet but there are local business’s that have coffee shops around here. There are a lot of women who go to places like Dunkin’ Donuts, Stewarts, Hannaford Grocery Store, etc. As you stand in the line waiting for the cashier if there are women standing in line, you can try to strike up a conversation. Maybe the public library is not a bad idea but again, women don’t wanna be bothered at a library ’cause they’ll be there to read and study or whatever but there maybe a trick to strike up a conversation as long you whisper. Maybe you can help them find a book they’re looking for or something like that or you could help them study. I gotta find things to do.

There is a bar room in Greenwich called the Old Station Inn but I freakin’ hate that place. A lot of women go there too but that place isn’t a great place to meet up women unless you wanna drunk ass woman to take home for a one night stand? Not really my thing, that’s why I wanna stay away from picking up women at bars and nightclubs. I don’t think I can handle it, ya know?

I gotta find places to meet women where there is no alcohol involved. I could join a Yoga class at the Y or something like that. That’s actually not a bad idea at all! I’ve always wanted to learn Yoga and I think there are Yoga classes at the Y. I know a lot of women do those exercise classes at the Y ’cause I see gorgeous women go to those classes at the Y every time I go to the gym.

I also learned that you don’t wanna go after your one woman crush. You wanna go after like 10 women or more and chances are one of them will wanna go out with you.

It’s sad that women do the choosing but it is what it is. I know this because I’ve had plenty of crushes on women over the years who had no interest in me in return whatsoever. When she gives you direct eye contact, talking to you, wants you to hug her or whatever that means she has quite a liking for you. When you go on a first date with her, that means she has accepted you for who you are. When you see women giving you eye contact and smiling, that means she wants you to go over and see what it’s all about.

Next time a woman appears interested in me, I won’t ignore her next time. I’ll just walk up to her and say, “hi, what’s up?”. That’s all I gotta do. Believe me, I’ve had women who appeared interested in me before but I just didn’t care to talk to her. No more of that. I gotta be a man and stop acting like a coward.

While there are women all over Greenwich, you may not find a perfect 10 around here but you will see hot and beautiful women around here. They are around believe it or not. Beautiful women are everywhere. I don’t have to date just beautiful woman. I’ll take an average and pretty looking one, sure. I’m more worried about her personality than looks, though. I hope to find one who’s big into music and movies likes me. Somebody with similar interests.

Kev