On Valentine’s yesterday… in facebook, I made a similar post that I was actually gonna do something about getting a relationship with a woman… and somebody replied to me with this advice that kind of hit me:
“Just be yourself! It seems to happen when you least expect it”
That really is the best advice that somebody have given me. It was short and straight to the point.
Now that I think about it… going through all of those youtube dating gurus and coaches was a huge waste of time. All that stuff was bullshit anyway. The youtube dating gurus wants to promote that you should go around talking to many different women as possible when in reality, it’s a bad idea.
Wanna get a relationship with somebody? Just like that somebody said in italics above, don’t expect it to happen. The less you keep worrying about a relationship, the better chances it will happen. If you don’t go around looking, women will find that attractive. Couples get together ’cause a relationships just happen… they just get together probably out of attraction and stuff.
It’s a bad idea to go looking around for women ’cause you’re going to go through a lot of rejections, you’re gonna keep getting hurt and get your heart broken… blah blah blah.
Just like this person says… just be yourself. Just continue to live your life and see what happens.
All those dating gurus online are a bunch of losers. They give you all of these ridiculous step by step instructions on getting a date which is a bunch of bullshit. Just be yourself and a relationship will happen on it’s own.
Kev
K'Brocking 
Well, yes and no. I think those gurus are idiots too, but you’ve still got to go out and show some initiative.
Yep, I agree that I need to go out there and actually do these things. I’m planning on it but it’s just that all the snow and mother nature is making it tough to go out… all the snow storms and shit, ya know? Winter has been crazy this year.
When the Spring comes around, I’ll get out more and socialize with people. I still go out during the Winter, though like to the gym, the mall and stuff but that’s about it.
I’m still gonna avoid the bar and club scene, though. The bar and club scene isn’t good to socialize and meet people.
I’ll find places to meet people. The gym is a good place to start. I talk to people at the gym sometimes.
I agree with you though, that I need to go out and actually do these things instead of talking about it and I will. I really need to improve my social skills overall, not just w/ women.
I’m working on improving my life.
Kev
I deleted bone’s comment by mistake… tried to bring it back but his response was similar to craig’s that I need to go out and do this stuff.
Kev
About the gym, honestly, that’s the last place girls want guys talking to them. Just FYI. Your best bet is to take a class there at the Y…yoga, Zumba, spinning, whatever…
At the Y, I usually see guys chatting it up with the ladies all the time so it shouldn’t be a problem. Sometimes I’ll even help women put weights back when they’re done with a workout but yeah, joining the classes would be a good idea.
I’ve always wanted to get into yoga.
Kev