For men out there with not a lot of dating experience, they usually get criticized for wanting to read all of these self-help dating books and watching youtube videos on that stuff. You see, you shouldn’t do that as it is unfair for them including myself. Why? It takes a lot of guts and a lot of balls to admit that your dating life sucks and you want to improve yourself. You want to improve your dating game and get better at it so you have no choice but to read all of these self-help dating books and watch youtube videos on that stuff since no one else cares to help you. They would usually get criticized and people would say things like, “You don’t need any of that stuff, all you need to do is talk to her and ask her for a coffee date and that’s it”. Really? If you’re saying that to them then chances are, you haven’t had much dating experience yourself either that or you just date nothing but average looking women. Think about it, ya know? Some would criticize that these self-help dating books and youtube videos is all bullshit and don’t even work. That’s probably ’cause they never read or saw any of those themselves.

I know some of these self-help dating stuff is bullshit but a lot of it really helped me. Some of it does work and is helpful. You should start getting into this stuff yourself and you would see that the information that they give you on how to improve your dating life is actually pretty insightful and helpful. Researching the dating scene helped give me more confidence with women than ever before so it really helped me a great ton.

You can’t just walk up to any random women and start talking to her and say, “Hey wanna go for a cup of coffee”. There is more to it than that and you gotta learn the techniques and the “know hows”. All women are different and some of them will find asking for a “coffee date” is a little creepy and weird. Average looking women maybe pretty easy to pick up but the beautiful ones… the 9’s and 10’s… you gotta really know the tricks ’cause they make it tough on ya.

I got myself into this just so I can learn how to get over my shyness and become more confident. Learn how to become a better man. Learn how to become more outgoing and talk more. I’m almost 40… getting there and it’s time for me to grow up and act like a man. It takes a lot of guts and bravery to admit that you wanna improve yourself.

So knock it off and give them props. If you’re one of the ones who say, “forget those self-help dating books” then you would be the last person I would wanna take dating advice from.

Reading this stuff is good and I think they do a good job helping people.

Kev