How to deal with haters/critics and negativity as a musician…

So you want to play your music and get yourself out there hoping to get noticed in your local area. I would have to say — knowing from my own experience — that being a local musician is kind of tough admittedly. It’s hard trying to get yourself out there and trying to get people to care, I hear ya.

I remember back in 2006/2007… those were the years when I first decided that I want to start playing my music publicly hoping to get well-known. When I first started releasing my music and started playing open mics/actual gigs, I got a mix of love and hate over the years. I’m fine with it too. It took me a long time to be able to finally accept the fact that I can’t get everyone to like me, but now I can handle it just fine.

I’m not lying when I said I get a mix of love and hate over the years of my life when it comes to my music. I still do get a mix of love and hate to this day. I’ve always had a mix of true fans and haters. Like I said above, I’m fine with that now. I used to be upset when I get haters and used to have a big problem engaging into them and defending myself (making things worse) but I don’t do that anymore. Now I get flattered when I get haters. I’ve gotten a lot better ignoring negativity nowadays. It’s just an unprofessional thing to do when you respond to negativity that is directed at you, ya know?

I was doing research on this stuff and stumbled upon this interesting blog on how musicians deal with haters and negativity. I liked it when this article said when you have haters take it like a badge of honor. Take it like a reward or something and be flattered by it.

Read this interesting blog which I agree with all of it:

https://www.digitalmusicnews.com/2016/10/24/haters/

Some of you may ask… why do I have a lot of haters? Is it because they think my music sucks? They don’t like my personality? They just think it’ll be funny to make fun of me? I would say a combination of all three!  A lot of people think it’s my fault that I get a lot of haters but I never thought so. All I want to do is play my music and get it out there, but unfortunately, that’s not gonna make some happy. Keep in mind that a lot of people are not gonna be nice to you. There WILL be a lot of assholes and mean people out there, trust me. That’s just the way it is. Best way to deal with them is just ignore them all. Haters are gonna hate, period. End of story. Just keep making your music and let people hate.

I also agree with that little blog post above that musicians are very sensitive people. A lot of them get upset too easily knowing from my own experience dealing with musicians. They can have some pretty nasty temper tantrums for sure. It’s crazy. The thing is, some musicians have huge egos and they can be narcissists. They just want everything to be positive about them, once you have negative thoughts about them… watch out.

I’ll never forget the days when people attacked me anonymously through message boards, social networking like the old myspace, facebook, twitter, youtube, etc. It was nasty when I dealt with all that. I still happen to get anonymous attacks once in a while, but I just ignore it and let it all slide by. Musicians and regular music fans can sometimes get all hell-bent on trying to destroy me but I’m still here. Still the same old guy and haven’t changed one bit for anyone.

Admittedly, I would like people to have more respect for me and treat me more positively but I learned that respect can’t fall in my lap. I gotta earn it. It took me a while to realize that I can’t make everyone happy even though I try. The blog above is so right, when you’re getting hated on publicly… don’t engage and let your supporters defend you. Your supporters/fans do a good job defending you. Yeah, I do have lovely fans and supporters who have always had my back 100%. They usually do help defend me when I’m getting attacked. That’s what your supporters & fans are there for. When they see you’re getting attacked by haters, they’ll help scare the haters away for you. I’ve seen it with other bands when they dealt with haters.

Yeah, there’s gonna be negativity and drama in music for sure. You just gotta learn to deal with it, stay strong and stay above it all if you want to succeed in music. I know I haven’t released any new music in a long while but when I do, I’ll probably get even more haters than ever before and I’m fine with that. I gotta get back into songwriting ’cause I’m itching for new material pretty badly.

Kev

 

 

 

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