I was never one to cut people out of my life. It’s just something that I would never do. At least I try not to. If I did then I would only do it if some people get way out of line about me. If I did cut people out of my life, I would welcome them back in it as long they are all for it. If not, then I’m okay with that.
Yes, you’re definitely going to go through with this a lot in life. Friends stabbing you in the back and cutting you out of your lives all of a sudden. I’m sure it happens with you whether you have male friends or female friends… it happens to me too. I’ve had a lot of people come and go in my life and I’m okay with that. I’m not heartbroken if someone wants nothing to do with me anymore. Life goes on, ya know? It always does. When people shut you out, all you need to do is to move on and forget about them. When friends turn out to not like you anymore, you get so hung up on defending yourself and winning them back. A huge waste of time, in my opinion. I say just let them go and give them the big middle finger.
When people stab you in the back, it’s definitely gonna make you think to yourself… “What did I do wrong? What did I say that pissed them off?” The answer to those questions is that you didn’t do anything. It’s them. Not you. They are the problem. Why are they the problem? Usually ego, jealousy, insecurity, selfishness, etc. Friends becoming enemies with each other is becoming a major problem in this society. It definitely is for sure. Can’t deny it. What’s even worse about ending friendships nowadays is that they end it quickly over social networking. You’ll know a friendship is done when they block you in all social networking. Instead of calling you by phone or writing an e-mail to you, they just block you with no explanation. In the old days when there were no internet, people used to end friendships by hanging up phone or getting their ass kicked on the streets. Now people end friendships over the internet which makes it easier for them.
Like I said, you’re definitely gonna deal with backstabbing friends and betrayals a lot. It’s part of life so you gotta learn to deal with it. I’ve had a lot of people in my life that I thought was my friend but wasn’t after all that time. Your true friends and people who truly care about you would be the ones who won’t stab you in the back and won’t cut you off. When people decide to cut you off, they are just showing their true colors. They weren’t your friends at all so you gotta stop calling them your friend.
People call them “fake friends” nowadays and there’s a lot of them out there. When you have a fake friend and they cut you off, you really need to let them go and leave them be. Don’t try to win them back. I’ve tried my best to win some of my former friends back but was unsuccessful at most of them. They bury the hatchet with you on their own terms, I guess, but I must warn you that when your ex-friend tries to bury the hatchet with you and you did for a while… you’ll be feuding with that person again. Remember, they were never your friends — they never were.
So you may ask, why would someone fake a friendship with you? Well, maybe they just want to use you and take advantage of you, ya know? Maybe they just use you ’cause they have no one else to go to. Some would use you for money, would only come to you when they need something and some would ride your coattails for their own success ’cause they know you got good things going. You can’t trust a lot of people nowadays.
So when you run into fake friends in your life, you need to tell them to fuck off and move on with your own life. Just keep smiling and keep moving forward. That’s what I’ve been doing lately and I’m doing a much better job at that. I don’t really give a shit if people don’t want to be in my life anymore. My life is good and I’m happy. I don’t have time for drama and negativity. I have music, I’m a musician and I’m also a fitness/bodybuilder guy so I’m good. Those are the two things that I care about most.
You don’t want to waste time with people who hates you. Losing friends isn’t actually a bad thing ’cause you can get even more friends out of it. There’s a saying out there which is, “We don’t lose friends, we just learn who the real ones are”. Which is very true if you think about it. The ones who stays with you all the time and is loyal to you are the real ones.
Most backstabbers only care about themselves anyways… they’ve always been pretty selfish. When they stab you in the back like that, they just confirmed that they are selfish so don’t worry about it.
Like I said, don’t try to win the backstabbers back. Move on with your own life. Keep on’ keepin on’ and keep being happy. You can’t make everyone happy ’cause the world doesn’t work like that.