A lot of guys these days are afraid to get their hands on women, ya know, touch them. When you touch women it’s a thing I learned that is called “Kinesthetics” or better known as “kino”. When you do things like “kino” you physically touch women in a non-sexual kind of way to create attraction. I love touching women. When I go to local band shows, parties and things like that, I like to go “kino” on them a lot. When you go “kino” you don’t touch any of their private parts at all but the kind of things that I do is I like to put my arms around her shoulders and hold her pretty close to me. Also do things like taking her hands (both of them), also you can caress your hand up and down her back, brush your hand through her hair if she has long hair that is.

When you’re taking selfies with a woman, wrap your arm around her shoulder and actually “touch her” shoulder. Don’t do “hover hand”.

All this stuff is part of being the “alpha male”. It lets her know that you can be confident when you go “kino” on her. I’d recommend you try to go “kino” when you’re out meeting chicks. A lot of women welcome guys touching her anyways. If she’s not pushing you away or slapping you across the face and if she doesn’t scream, “Hands off” and things like that, it probably means that she might have a romantic interest in you in return.

“Kino” is awesome and I recommend you guys go for it. Don’t be afraid to get your hands on the ladies (make sure it’s appropriate touching, nothing sexual too soon) ’cause they are not gonna bite at all.

Kev

EDIT TO ADD

To those who don’t know anything about “kino”, here’s a pretty good link explaining it all…

KINO: How to Physically Escalate

It’s totally okay to touch strange women you just met. Don’t listen to all the idiots who claim it’s “creepy” ’cause it’s not. Women thrive on touch and they LOVE IT! If you find this post offensive and see it as “creepy” then it proves my point that most guys are afraid of touching women.

Picking up women at bars & clubs aren’t always the best, in my opinion. Why? Well for one, loud music and it’s definitely difficult to have an intimate conversation with her ’cause you have to scream and yell in order to hear each other over the loud music. Can’t stand it. Secondly, she’s gonna be either really drunk, stoned on pot or a little bit of both. The same goes for house parties, ya know?

I usually don’t go to bars or clubs at all but if I had to it would be to go see a local band that I like or if I get dragged in with friends. Anyway, the bar and club scene would be a good excuse to help build your confidence in approaching women which is what I pretty much use them for if I had to go to them. They can be a good practice tool for the pickup scene which is what it could be good for but I wouldn’t take a girl home from a bar, though. I’m not into the “one-night” stand thing at all.

I would rather pick up chicks at non-alcoholic environments. Places that don’t involve alcohol like Coffee houses, the library, the gym, the mall and places like those. It’s better meeting a girl who isn’t drunk ’cause she’ll remember who you are and she’ll understand what she’s saying most of the time.

I’m just not a big fan of the bar & club scene at all. You don’t need to pick up chicks at bars ’cause there are chicks everywhere you look and everywhere you go. I don’t know why people rely on bars & clubs for the dating scene. There are other options. You just gotta look and explore.

Kev

When I read facebook drama, I feel like telling them what the Rock is telling them: “Take your facebook drama and shove it straight up your candyass”. Yeah, I do read a lot of facebook drama on my wall and I’m sure you do as well.

That’s the problem with facebook. It’s too “cliquey”. Friends will stay loyal to their friends but will trash talk anybody who doesn’t belong to them… “cliques” ya know? I read too much drama and soap opera stuff on my wall everyday. It’s crazy.

It’s pretty much why I “almost” permanently left facebook ’cause of the drama and facebook being too “cliquey”. I guess I have to do my best and ignore it all, ya know?

I see drama with mostly women, though. Men are usually pretty cool in facebook but women can be such drama queens, wow.

If I ever get myself a girlfriend, that’s the kind of girl I don’t want to have at all… a drama queen. Ya know, women who rail against their ex’s and other females. The kind of girl I would want to date is a drama-free girl. I want a positive and joyful girlfriend who is happy most of the time. I wouldn’t want to date a girl who is always negative and bitchy all the time. Believe me, there are plenty of women out there who are always negative and bitchy, I’m sure you know that. Not all women are nice. I see a lot of women who goes on some pretty harsh rants.

I try not to reply to any of that stuff. I look at all this drama stuff on facebook and think to myself… wow, “Do people have better things to do in their lives, eh?”  I guess not. The more people post up their drama stuff and rant about how much their life sucks, the more it shows that they aren’t really happy in their lives at all.

Those aren’t the kind of women I would want to date. If I date a girl who is negative and grumpy all the time, I’ll dump her pretty fast. I want to date a good girl and a happy one. Those are the kinds I would want in my life.

Kev

For men out there with not a lot of dating experience, they usually get criticized for wanting to read all of these self-help dating books and watching youtube videos on that stuff. You see, you shouldn’t do that as it is unfair for them including myself. Why? It takes a lot of guts and a lot of balls to admit that your dating life sucks and you want to improve yourself. You want to improve your dating game and get better at it so you have no choice but to read all of these self-help dating books and watch youtube videos on that stuff since no one else cares to help you. They would usually get criticized and people would say things like, “You don’t need any of that stuff, all you need to do is talk to her and ask her for a coffee date and that’s it”. Really? If you’re saying that to them then chances are, you haven’t had much dating experience yourself either that or you just date nothing but average looking women. Think about it, ya know? Some would criticize that these self-help dating books and youtube videos is all bullshit and don’t even work. That’s probably ’cause they never read or saw any of those themselves.

I know some of these self-help dating stuff is bullshit but a lot of it really helped me. Some of it does work and is helpful. You should start getting into this stuff yourself and you would see that the information that they give you on how to improve your dating life is actually pretty insightful and helpful. Researching the dating scene helped give me more confidence with women than ever before so it really helped me a great ton.

You can’t just walk up to any random women and start talking to her and say, “Hey wanna go for a cup of coffee”. There is more to it than that and you gotta learn the techniques and the “know hows”. All women are different and some of them will find asking for a “coffee date” is a little creepy and weird. Average looking women maybe pretty easy to pick up but the beautiful ones… the 9’s and 10’s… you gotta really know the tricks ’cause they make it tough on ya.

I got myself into this just so I can learn how to get over my shyness and become more confident. Learn how to become a better man. Learn how to become more outgoing and talk more. I’m almost 40… getting there and it’s time for me to grow up and act like a man. It takes a lot of guts and bravery to admit that you wanna improve yourself.

So knock it off and give them props. If you’re one of the ones who say, “forget those self-help dating books” then you would be the last person I would wanna take dating advice from.

Reading this stuff is good and I think they do a good job helping people.

Kev

One thing I have been noticing that has been happening a lot lately in facebook is that when new couples start dating and they confirm their relationship publicly in facebook, a lot of times I would see an all out soap opera war with their friends and family members. It usually happens when people switch their status from “single” to “In a relationship”. Then you would have to get forced to read all of their drama in facebook. Is that the whole purpose of facebook? To start drama and Jerry Springer soap opera stuff? It really seems like it. When new couples form in facebook, sometimes they do get positive responses and sometimes they get negative responses.

Why is it when couples confirm their relationship in social networking, a heated war breaks out publicly?

It just goes to show that a lot of people out there can be jealous of other couples. Jealousy is all it is pretty much. They usually respond in a jealous rage. I’ve been seeing this more and more in facebook. Their ex’s trying to get revenge and all that stuff.

Even though I prefer to stay out of that drama, it is entertaining as hell to read, though. So when that stuff happens just break out the popcorn and get ready.

When new couples form, I would see a lot of women attacking the guy for getting the new girl ’cause they probably want to date him themselves, ya know? That’s what it is. You would see all kinds of women accusing this guy of being a cheater and all that crazy stuff. Sometimes other men would even attack the girl for getting a new man as well. Jealousy all around, gotta love it.

I don’t know why people get themselves into this mess. Drama and gossiping, you get the deal. I’m not interested in any of that drama. Leave me out. Which gets me thinking that if I ever start dating women myself, this soap opera stuff could happen to me. People are really weird and crazy, I tell ya.

When you get yourself in a committed relationship and happy, you gotta ignore all the negative and jealous people. Block ’em off of facebook and eliminate drama queens from your life… problem solved. Never allow people to ruin things for you.

Kev

Another great video by the Doctor of Common Sense. You know how when men lie about a lot of things, well women lie about stuff too… make no mistake about it.

I especially agree with the first one on the list when women claim that they’re happy for a guy who are in a happy relationship with a woman. He’s saying it only applies to women only if they are in a happy relationship themselves and what they’re really saying is that it’s driving them mad and driving them crazy. Which is true if you think about it.

In facebook, each time I see a guy get into a new relationship with a woman and when women reply saying stuff, “I’m happy for you, best of luck” and all that stuff… notice all those friendly compliments are coming from women who aren’t single mostly? The single women usually stay silent. When they say things like “I’m happy for you, best of luck”… they’re just being polite and that is all.

They’re just afraid to admit that they want to date you and that is all.

If I ever get myself in a happy relationship, I can’t wait to see the public response. Should be interesting.

Kev

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wGDowssmzCM

After all the dating self-help stuff that I read about the dating scene over the past year or so many of them would say to ask a woman out, say something small like, “Would you like to see each other again sometime like get some coffee or whatever?”.

I disagree and that is kind of weak. Saying to her lets hang and chill is kind of acting like a pussy. It’ll make it seem like you’re the one friendzoning her instead.

I’d say bite the bullet and saying something ballsy like this, “I’d love to take you out sometime for live music and good food. What day works for you?”. Yes, mention the word “out” as in “date”, ya know?

I wouldn’t pay attention to all this PUA advice stuff you see on the internet. Best way to do it is just be yourself and go for it. I’m gonna give this a try next time I meet somebody in public.

It’s an appropriate thing to do is to ask her out asap if you like her ’cause you may never see her again after that and I’ve made that mistake many times. Waited too long to ask her out or ended up not asking her out at all out of shyness and I gotta knock that off. Be a real man and grow up. Learn to become this powerful and brave alpha male is what I’m trying to do.

Women want men to take the lead. Don’t ask her what she wants to do for dates. She wants you to make the plans. I guess taking the lead is pretty much key to getting women and I’m learning.

Kev

Yeah, I probably could. I don’t think I’m shy over women anymore, even the beautiful ones. They aren’t as intimidating as they look at all. You gotta have confidence and balls and I guess that’s the kind of men they like.

I gotta learn to become a real man. I’m learning and getting better at it as you can clearly see. I would love to date the 9’s and the 10’s if I can. I just gotta get lucky enough. While looks don’t really matter to me, I would like to date the beautiful ones to see what it’s like. There’s a myth going around that dating beautiful chicks is tough but I don’t think it is, really. They’re actually pretty easy.

I gotta go out there and do things to meet women and I will. I’ve already had started doing that actually. I just gotta get a successful number close on her and score an actual date with her.

I deserve to have fun and enjoy myself. You can only live once, right?

Kev