I just finished reading “The Game” by Neil Strauss today and decided to give you my quick thoughts on it.

The book was quite an interesting read. I couldn’t put it down and it was addicting as hell. This book isn’t just a “how to get girls” book, it is pretty much but it’s more than that. It’s basically a memoir about Neil’s life as a player. It also teaches you how to become more confident around women and people in general. Its’ basically a book about life pretty much.

It tells the story of how Neil used to be a shy, introverted person and wanted to change himself for the better so he started getting together with all of these famous pick up artists like Mystery, Ross Jeffries, David Deangelo, etc. so they can help him become more outgoing and be more confident around women. In the beginning, Neil wasn’t very good at picking up women and kept failing at it until later on, he became successful and he could get any woman he wanted. He could even hook up with Playboy models and porn stars as well.

While the game of being a player may sound fun, there are a lot of risks and dangers involved. There will be all kinds of ups and downs. Being a player will not always be a positive thing. Some of you may ask. What is a player? What does a Player do? A player does not necessarily mean somebody who goes around picking up multiple women like many mistakenly believe. A player is somebody who pretends to care for a woman and all he wants is sex from her, that’s it. Some of you may ask… am I teaching myself how to become a player? Admittedly, maybe a little bit but not really. It seems the more I read  and learn about this stuff, the more intriguing this game stuff sounds.

The only reason I started learning from these pick up artists and dating gurus is for me to help myself become more successful with women. I want to learn to be more confident around them. Be able to approach them and talk to them without any fear.

While this book was mostly written a journal or an online blog, it did give you some helpful information that I’ll take.

I learned a lot of interesting vocabulary… things like “number close”, “kiss close”, “sarging”, “the three second rule”, etc. Some of you may ask, what’s a “kiss close”? Well it’s a technique that Mystery created that when you first meet a girl you close it with a kiss. Neil teaches you how to do it in this book. It is possible to kiss a girl you just met, don’t listen to the doubters out there.

I also like the “three second rule” idea. That’s another Mystery technique is when you see a girl you like you approach her no longer than 3 seconds. Any longer than that, she’ll already think you’re a creeper or a stalker. If you like a girl anywhere, you approach her as soon as possible and she’ll be up for a conversation with you. I like that idea and I think I’ll give that a try. Just standing there checking her out and staring is just creepy. I’ve been guilty of that many times and I gotta stop it. If I think a girl is attractive to me, I gotta learn to approach and talk to her asap.

I also learned the, “IOI” (Indicators of Interest, another Mystery thing). It means when a girl shows you signs of interest like: her asking what your name is, her touching you, giving you direct eye contact as you speak to her, her being all flirty, etc. I learned when you talk to a girl you never give her your name unless she asks you for it. When she does that, it means she’s interested in you. Watch out for all the IOI’s she gives you and that’s giving you a clear sign that she’s inviting you to ask you out. She’s waiting for you to ask her out… testing you to see if you have the balls to do so.

It was a great book. I did learn some stuff from it and it was entertaining as hell read. I can see it being made into a movie for the big screen too ’cause there are some funny stories in it.

Being a player really isn’t my goal, although there is nothing wrong with it. I just want to start getting women in my life. I just read this stuff for information and research. I just want to become successful at dating and pick up without any failure. I tried to hook up dates with women in the past but failed many times. I just started reading and learning this stuff so I can start doing it right.

I remember in this blog, I used to believe that my failure with women was all about the looks and the money. I used to believe that women only date guys with good looks and have lots of money but then I finally woke up and now I believe that’s not really true. Looks and money don’t really matter to women either.

Many don’t believe I can hook up with beautiful women or smoking hot babes but I believe I can. I used to believe they wouldn’t find me attractive and good looking but I don’t think that way anymore. I believe women do like me. I know I have what it takes. I just have to prove the doubters wrong.

I have already started taking these things into action too. Just had small talk with a nice girl at Hannaford grocery store just the other day. When I was buying a few groceries at the cashier, there was a cute blond at the register and before she said anything to me first, I told her, “Hello, how are you.” She then gave me direct eye contact and said, “Hello, pretty good. How is your summer doing?”. It went something like that. Before I left, she put her hand up as a wave for bye just as she was getting ready for the next customer after me. Those are the things that you gotta do. So after that moment, I said to myself… “So there it is. It has begun”.

It was a great book. Recommended reading.

Kev