I’ve been a part of the local music scene for many years. For at least 10 years or a little over, I believe. I have been observing how musicians act in the scene. The reason a lot of people mistakenly believe that we have a friendly music scene, is that when people play in a band and they become popular, that’s when they automatically see them as friendly people. They think that when you play in a band, people immediately think that musicians have a professional attitude, that’s why the fans want to believe that musicians are always lovable and friendly to everyone they see. I’m not sure an easier way to explain it, but I think you get the point of what I’m trying to talk about here.

When you get to know the music scene well enough like I do, you’ll start to realize that not all of the music scene is that friendly. You see, all musicians are different. They all have different personalities. Sure, some musicians can be wonderful people, down to earth, and very friendly. I met some very friendly musicians myself and I still know some who have positive attitudes. Sure enough, you’re going to come across some musicians who can be downright rude, and some can be assholes as well. You will come across some negative jerks around here, for sure. Some musicians don’t even care about people at all, a lot of them keep to themselves and they’re in it just to play music or just for the money alone.

When I used to gig and shared the stage with different bands & solo acoustic artists, I’ve noticed musicians who had various personalities. Like I said some were friendly, rude, mean, and some didn’t even care. I even shared the stage with musicians who I didn’t even talk to that much ’cause he/she was just there to play their gig and that was it. I remember some did stay at the gig to hang out with me, so they were the friendly ones.

I have been observing musicians personalities online and off. They all have different personalities online as well. That’s how they are. They are not gonna be the same. You’re going to realize that local musicians, are just regular human beings. You know how when you want to meet your favorite famous person, and once you get the opportunity to meet him, he turns out to be an asshole? Well, it’s the same way with the local music scene. You may find what this musician does is admirable and you may respect him/her, but soon you’ll learn that this someone is not the good person you think he/she is.

I’ve met plenty of musicians over the years, who I thought were once cool, but later on you’re going to be very disappointed. This includes the established bands & musicians too. Just because they’re well known, doesn’t really mean they’re friendly people. You’re gonna come across musicians who have huge egos and short tempers.

If you’re a struggling musician like me trying to get respected and get more recognition musically and if you’re not in their league, they won’t make you feel welcome in the music scene ’cause you’ll accused of being an amateur/hobbyist, and all that stuff. If you want to have a healthy and positive music career, you need to be strong and tough. Don’t let the egos destroy your dreams ’cause that’s all they want to do. They want to see you fail. Don’t listen to the critics. Don’t trust anybody. Just simply, don’t give a fuck.

If music is what you like to do, then keep doing it. This is where I come from. Staying above the haters & doubters, and ignoring all negativity at all costs, is how you keep going forward in your dreams and focusing on your goals. People have been trying to destroy my music dreams for years. I just ignore ’em and say to hell with ’em. I continue to do this ’cause it’s what I do. I don’t care if people think my music is not successful or any of their negative opinions. If people want to believe my blogging is more successful than my music, that’s fine too. The point I’m trying to make is that I’m a musician and you can’t change that. That’s who I am.

The point of this post is that people shouldn’t judge music being a friendly world, when not all of it is really. Too many opinionated people everywhere, and personally, I think they all need to get slapped up and keep their opinions to themselves.

I’m coming back to this music thing, I think, soon, and I’ll do a much better job, ignoring those critics, haters, and doubters, trust me.

Kev