In the past, I used to think that music was going to be friendly, almost all the time and thinking I was going to make friends with everybody. I am noticing that some musicians out there today even think that still. Many musicians are in it to become part of the community and to make friends with other musicians. If that’s what you’re doing music for, then I think you’re doing music for all the wrong reasons.

Yes, you’re going to meet some musicians that have huge ego problems. Yes, you’re going to run into some musicians with huge temper tantrums, you know, musicians that are real dicks and almost negative, all the time. Yes, you’re going to run into musicians, club owners/promoters that will stab you in the back and deal with a lot of drama bullshit. Yes, you’re going to get people that will hate you and think your musical talent is crap. Blah blah blah, you get the deal.

I’ve dealt with these things over the years in music. Hey, all musicians go through it , they all go through ups and downs, all the time.

I learned that if you want to keep doing what you’re doing, making music and playing live, is to ignore all the bullshit completely. You only care about “you”, and your “music”. Not caring what anybody else thinks. This is the best way to go, if you want to keep going in music.

Don’t be into music to make friends with people in the scene. That’s not what music is all about in my opinion, when a lot of people think it is. I know it sounds harsh and you may think I’m crazy, but you need to think about this. The no. 1 rule is only care about the music that you do, if you want to keep going. Nothing else.

If bullshit gets in your way, let it slide right by immediately and keep going with your music. You don’t have to give up what you do  just because all kinds of negativity gets in the way with it.

You have to be strong and have guts.

Making “friends” with other musicians in the music scene is not the right way to go, in my opinion. To be honest, these musicians don’t even care about you, anyway. They only care about their own playing and the music they do in their band. I clearly think musicians are “using” musicians just to promote their own music by networking with the music community.

Don’t trust anybody and don’t listen to anybody, only believe in yourself. Don’t let the negativity stop doing what you love doing. I’m learning.

Kev