I see people every day complaining about evil and toxic people in their lives. You see people in facebook complaining about how they don’t like getting drama and negativity in their lives. Well, I hear you all ’cause I’m pretty much in the same boat. I too have dealt with evil and toxic people who always seems to be in a desperate attempt to ruin my life.

This article came up in my FB newsfeed earlier today and it’s interesting. Yep, when dealing with toxic people this article explains the 12 signs on how to spot them.

http://soultype.org/12-signs-that-you-are-dealing-with-an-evil-person/

Yes, there are people who refuses to accept the truth. Ya know, people who are always denying reality. I know the feeling ’cause I’ve dealt with people like that too. You try your best to tell the truth and people just can’t accept it. Then they start arguing all of a sudden.

Yes, there are plenty of pathological liars out there and I’ve dealt with plenty of those too. People will do anything to make themselves look good even if it means lying.

There are also plenty of those who shows no remorse after they have treated you badly. You get no “apology” from them and they don’t make amends with you, no nothing. Crazy, I know! After people treat you horribly, they just go about their lives enjoying themselves acting like their feud with you never happened.

I also like No. 11 on that list “living double lives” ’cause there are many out there that do that. There are so many fake people out there, it’s crazy. Some people pretend they have good things going on in their lives when in reality, they don’t have fuckin’ shit.

It also seems that the only reason you get a lot of haters and drama queens in your life is when you have good things going on. I also agree with that article that they seem to back off on ya when things aren’t going good for ya.

It’s really nuts how people out there wants to see you fail at life instead of being proud of you being happy and doing what you want to do in life to become successful. Instead, they act all jealous and bitter. What’s going on with people and society nowadays? So much drama and negativity!

Ya know… when you want to live a successful lifestyle expect a lot of haters. You want to have a good job/career, a good family and all that stuff… you’ll get a lot of jealous haters and control freaks coming after you.

I agree with what the article said at the end of it… you gotta learn to be aware of who you surround yourself with. Don’t be afraid to get toxic people out of your life ’cause I’ve been doing just that lately and it feels real good, trust me. Like the article said, you gotta learn to love yourself in order to get away from evil/toxic people. You can enjoy life much easier when you eliminate evil/toxic people. Yeah, a lot of people out there suck and people are getting wacked nowadays. Just be yourself and fuck the rest.

Kev.

There’s nothing wrong with liking your own music. There’s nothing wrong with being proud of the music you make. Is it a good idea to publicly express that you think your music is really good? I see this all the time with bands and artists in the local music community. Musicians thinking they’re playing is so good and saying that the music they make is good. It’s cool to think that your music is good, but it’s a pretty good idea to keep that thought to yourself.

When it comes to my own music, I’ve always tried my best to stay humble about it. It’s always the best idea to let your listeners decide whether your music is good or not, you don’t decide that for yourself. Ya know, just let the music speak on it’s own is what I’m trying to get at here. It’s really simple to understand.

Too many bands nowadays always going off about how good their music is. Well, if you’re one of the ones who are like that then chances are, your music probably isn’t all that good. It used to be looked at as a bad thing to think your own music is good, but somehow thinking your own music is good and liking it has become more accepted.

To be honest, I don’t think my own music is all that great. I just do what I do. Just play music and rock out. I just write songs that come out of me and many of them just happen. If other people like my songs then that’s great! If other people don’t like my songs then that’s fine too. I also think compliments about my music is a little uncomfortable, honestly and there are too many bands that love getting compliments toward their music. I just want to play and write songs.

There are too many bands out there that write music for themselves and many of them listen to their own music. Not me. I don’t listen to my own music for my own enjoyment. The only time I’ll listen to my own songs is when I forget lyrics or if I forget guitar parts, and I’ll go back to try to figure them out. That’s about it. I just write and record my songs and never go back to them. I never felt comfortable hearing my own singing voice.

I’m tired of hearing bands saying stuff like, “Our album is really good and our fans are gonna dig it”. I’ve heard bands say much worse things than that. Bands are so egotistical and arrogant about their music nowadays, it’s crazy.

No need to take yourself so serious. All I do is just write music, put them out there and see what happens.

Speaking of writing original music, I gotta get back into songwriting again soon and I will. I’ve been messing with some guitar riffs here and there. I’m itching to get new material out.

Kev

Why is it that some musicians almost always throw a tantrum at you when you criticize them about something? You always try to give musicians helpful advice or give a different opinion of them about something, but they always see it as you getting onto them. They always take things pretty personally even if what you say is good and there’s nothing wrong with it. Still though, many musicians tend to lose their tempers when you criticize them about something. Even if when the criticism is not that bad and something very small, they still get all pissed off.

I talk all this from experience too. I’ve had many musicians over the years lose their tempers and get all angry when I criticize them about something. Many of them don’t like to get criticized at all. It’s funny how musicians act toward feedback whether it’s positive or negative. When they get positive feedback by people, they always jerk themselves off most of the time and when they get negative feedback, they don’t like it.

Why? It’s simply because the only answer is that a lot of musicians out there expect “approval” to be handed at them. They always expect approval to fall in their lap. They expect everybody to like them, but they get pissed when someone else has a different thought about them. In other words, musicians obsess with validation more than anyone is what I’m trying to get at here. If you think approval is handed to you then stop right there… that’s not how it works you all. You have to earn the approval, you can’t just beg people for it.

I would like to get people to like me and stop criticizing me, but I can’t do anything about it and just let people think what they want about me as a musician. I know I can’t get everyone’s approval and can’t get everyone to like me. I know it doesn’t work that way. Quite frankly, I don’t care if I don’t get people’s approval or get people’s respect ’cause all I want to do is just make music and play.

If all these musicians do is get mad at people’s criticism and honesty then it’s a clear sign that they do have a huge ego problem. All they want to do is hear positive feedback just so they can show off that they are loved by people.

I try to stay humble as best as possible but musicians just don’t do that anymore. I like to let the music speak on it’s own and that’s how it should be done. When you want to be a part of the musicians community, one thing to keep in mind that people are really weird around here. The thing is most musicians around here only care about themselves and that’s the freakin’ truth, ya know? They don’t really care about you even though it may seem like it. A lot of ’em live in a rock star fantasy world. They would only care about you if you give them nothing but positive feedback to them. They will hate you if they see that you’re different. I guess that’s how it goes around here. To me, I don’t give a shit either way. I’ve always embraced the fact that I’m either loved or hated. Doesn’t matter to me.

If a musician can’t accept any kind of negativity or hate then there’s a problem. What are you doing being a musician if you can’t take criticism? It really bothers me when I see musicians who gets all defensive at all negative criticism and trust me, there are plenty of musicians like that out there. I don’t mind getting haters ’cause it’s actually good publicity sometimes and even if I get a negative review toward my songs, I would still be flattered.

Like I said musicians obsess with validation more than anyone and that’s what this topic is about pretty much. Enjoy!

Kev